Psychologically, Murray-Dickson says this is understandable. “I’d often ask them questions like ‘Would you ever consider sleeping with a guy?’ and see how they responded.” “It was the best of both worlds, because it allowed me to live out a fantasy and grow my confidence, but also suss out whether a guy could be gay,” says Jack*. Many of the gay men I spoke to said that catfishing gave them a glimmer of confidence talking to boys.
But back in the day, on MSN Messenger, you’d have email addresses of the lads from school, or they were at least findable.” “A lad growing up in Wick is going to be pretty limited in his options compared to someone in a city centre. “For some of them, depending on where and how they grew up, any expression of their minority identity is going to result in prejudice and bullying,” he says. “This will probably continue to drop until kids just feel comfortable with who they are.” Murray-Dickson tells me that this gradual cultural shift enables young LGBTQ people to know who they are, but not necessarily be who they are yet.
“In 2011, the average age of coming out was 14, compared to 18 back in 1993,” he says. Kyle Murray-Dickson, a clinical associate in applied psychology for children and young people, tells me that these justifications make sense. "Catfishing was the closest to romantic interaction I could get – a sort of a thrill that porn didn’t provide.”